Neff Inspiration

10in10 Marcy Pusey Words can create strong young people or Cause Mental Health Problems in Adults

Marcy is mama to four humans and two pups, but she’s also tossed pizzas for a pizzeria, acted in a musical, and appeared in a few movies. Marcy is also a Certified Rehabilitation Counselor and Certified Trauma and Resilience Practitioner, international 2x TEDx speaker, Story Coach, publishing consultant, and an award-winning author of books for adults and for children. She does her best writing on retreats with a nearby hot tub, in any castle, or within view of the sea. You can visit her at marcypusey.com 

1. You are worthy of being valued, loved, and safe
2. You hold that intrinsic worth and value
3. Your value comes from you
4. You are more than your traumatic experiences
5. Every story matters
6. There is always hope
7. Not all therapy is equal
8. Boundaries are loving
9. What is my purpose? What is my vision? 
10. May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears

10in10 - Kate Kunkel (dementia prevention specialist) - Losing your mind is a choice

Kate Kunkel has enjoyed careers as a writer, a harpist, and a TV talk show host. But her most important job developed from her desire to prevent what happened to her mother from ever happening to anyone else. Seeing the devastation that dementia wreaks has made Kate a passionate advocate for prevention of this terrible disease. By researching and creating a program to prevent dementia, Kate has made it her life’s work to educate and empower people to take control of their lives and save their brains. She believes that Losing your Mind is a Choice.

https://katekunkel.com/

1. There's no reason your brain has to decline as you get older
2. Myth: Brain games will prevent cognitive decline. The only way a brain game can help if it's something that's new to you
3. Myth: memory loss is the biggest symptom to worry about. Rather, look out for personality changes, loss of sense of smell and new cravings for something sweet. 
4. Myth: my brain is going to slow as I get older. Are you experiencing symptoms of cognitive decline or is it time to look at your environment?
5. Every time we use a mind-altering substance, we're also altering our brain
6. Joy is a huge part of a mindful and happy brain
7. We can actually change our brains - we can turn them around after injuries and damage

10in10 CJ Grace: Thriving after Infidelity and Cancer

CJ Grace had lived a charmed life. A dream job as BBC journalist and then working for China Radio International in Beijing, falling in love with an American she met there. Her 25th wedding anniversary was the best one ever, spent in Hawaii, where they had a second home. Just 2 years later, her life was in tatters. Her husband had a mistress half his age, and CJ got breast cancer. Refusing to be a victim and hanging on to her sense of humour, CJ developed a 6-part program to use adversity as a catalyst to reinvent her midlife.

C. J. Grace is the author of Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not and currently completing Hotel Chemo: My Wild Ride through Breast Cancer and Infidelity. She dealt with the double whammy of discovering her husband’s infidelity and shortly after being diagnosed with breast cancer by refusing to be a victim and keeping her wicked sense of humour. C. J. was a BBC journalist and voiceover artist in the UK and later worked for China Radio International in Beijing. She insists that the obstacles she’s faced have enabled her to make her midlife better than her younger days. 

1. Build community cultivating connections, old and new
2. Found confidence and mentors with your best interests at heart
3. Laughter therapy
4. Love your body
5. Find your passion
6. Live in the present and become more mindful
7. Information is power
8. The best revenge is to get past the need for it
9. Become complete in yourself with, or without a partner
10. Life is short

10in10 Scott J Spears: The Resilience Roadmap

Scott has traveled the world for the past 30 years, living in 52 countries, serving in 2 combat tours including the delivery of regional and global projects as a global consultant.
Being a past victim of burnout to the point where he actually died, his journey to recovery helped him develop a personalized growth roadmap entitled TIME | LIFE | SELF which is derived from his life’s lessons learned.
Additionally, Scott offers Leadership Transformation services helping executives and managers recognize their organization’s performance thresholds and how to counter polluted circumstances while reducing stress and burnout.
In Scott's words: 
Little did I realize how many directions one’s life could go. As a child, I dreamed of exploring the world over. Serving in 2 combat tours at 18 years old forced me to grow up quicker than others. Experiencing death gave me a different outlook on the value of life.
Promising myself to live my life to the fullest, I sought a life that would keep me moving, learning. Working unthinkable projects in harsh conditions, until I couldn’t. Leading to my death. Why this and the ensuing depression happened is how I created my TIME | LIFE | SELF program.
Check out Scott's website: www.scottjspears.com 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/time_life_self
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TIMELIFESELF

The Resilience Roadmap:
1. Consider your time 
2. Create a time budget
3. You got to have goals
4. Disconnect
5. Prioritize 
6. Perform self-maintenance 
7. Pay attention to your energy
8. Do a nightly self-review
9. Make peace
10. Take the time to restart if necessary

10in10 Peter Burkin: Bully-proof yourself

His name is Peter Burkin. He is a Dad, teacher, life coach, and consultant. He created a blueprint to help Bully Proof schools and communities. As a Bully Proof Expert, his intent is to help eradicate bullying, enhance self-esteem, manage anger, increase financial literacy, etc. He believes if we have healthy city public schools, the planet will heal!
He was traumatized by bullying and overcame four suicide attempts. Story can heal.
He is happy to provide tips to know with regard to Mental Health and Bully Proofing. He wrote a book called Bully Proofing: 234 Solutions to the Problems.

Email at pburkin@gmail.com 
My landing page is www.messagetobillions.com
You can also find him on Facebook:  
https://www.facebook.com/peter.burkin.10
https://thepassiontest.simplero.com/S/
http://thepassiontest.com/?ref=16553-Peter-Burkin

1. learn and grow every day
2. be of service
3. show an attitude of gratitude 
4. learn and grow from challenges
5. do unto others as you would want them to do onto you
6. get a life coach
7. the power of the mastermind is the passion test
8. transcend your ego
9. practice radical forgiveness, especially for yourself
10. overcome your limiting beliefs

10in10 Randi Lee Bowslaugh: Embrace Yourself!

Randi-Lee is an author, mental health advocate and host of the Write or Die Show. Her purpose in life is to lift others up by using her struggles to empower others.     
Randi-Lee discusses how she has struggled with depression and the coping strategies that have led her to embrace herself. By being open and honest she wants others to know that they are not alone and that we are all in this together. 

Facebook: @rbwriting @writeordieshow  
Instagram @randibwriting  
TikTok: @writeordieshow  
YouTube: Write or Die Show
www.rbwriting.ca
www.writeordieshow.ca
Amazon: Randi-Lee Bowslaugh

1. be honest with yourself
2. set boundaries
3. take breaks
4. say no, no is a complete sentence
5. be honest with those around you
6. Not everyone will be in your life forever
7. try something new
8. we grow, we change and that's okay
9. change is not always bad
10. be true to yourself

260 Nick Mathews: FATE - From Addict to Entrepreneur

Nicholas Mathews is a founder of Stillwater Behavioral Health, a Dual Diagnosis treatment facility that personalizes care to help people struggling to recover from substance addiction and mental health disorders -- regardless of their socioeconomic background. Mathews abused opioids before becoming a heroin addict at age 16. When he developed a life-threatening liver condition, he realized he needed to get clean. After succeeding, he dedicated his life to guiding others into sobriety, becoming a consultant for various treatment facilities. This inspired him to fix deficiencies in clinical care and boost treatment program effectiveness through Stillwater Behavioral Health. He currently studies at Harvard Business School online. 
                
3 top tips for my audience:
“You can’t keep what you have unless you give it away.” That’s a wildly important lesson I learned. You have to be willing to show up for other people with the absence of self. If you benefit from that, great, but the real benefit comes from the reminder that your problems are not the most significant. You are not the most important person in the room. And one of the biggest things I’ve benefited from is the ability to realize that I’m not a victim. I don’t think there’s ever been a situation where I was truly victimized. It was a state of mind that I upheld to justify my behavior. When I could transcend that mindset and take control of my life, I experienced a freedom I had never known before.

Get in touch with Nicholas Mathews
www.stillwatertreatment.com   
info@stillwaterbh.com | 805-572-7911

10in10 Tim Mousseau: Preventing sexual abuse and harrassment

10in10 Tim Mousseau: Preventing sexual abuse and harrassment

Tim is a survivor of sexual violence turned educator and advocate on this topic. At the age of 22, Tim faced an incident of sexual assault. On top of this, Tim had to manage the stresses of workplace sexual harassment from his boss.
 
Coming to terms with his experience, Tim recognized how it left him feeling powerless. He vowed no one should ever feel the same way.
 
For the last nine years, Tim has spoken with over 400 organizations, including Congressional offices, top universities, and Fortune 1000 companies worldwide. His speaking covers creating safe cultures and sexual violence/harassment prevention.

www.timmousseau.com 
LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-mouss...
IG- https://www.instagram.com/tim_mousseau/

1. everyone holds personal boundaries
2. a boundary violation can occur regardless of our relationship with someone
3. it's up to the person who experiences the violation to define and determine how much context matters
4. harm is a veritable concept
5. It's really critical that we think about not just being against the big behaviours, but the small behaviours
6. apologize without contextualizing
7. take ownership regardless of your intentionality 
8. our identity impacts how we perceive these situations
9. And just because something's been the way it was for so many years, it doesn't mean we can't critique it. Re-explore it, reevaluate it and come up with better answers!

10in10 Kelli Dennehey Christina: Living a fantastic life in Alanon & changing your life philosophy

Kelli Christina is an International Best-selling author, public speaker, CEO, and business coach. She has worked part-time on government projects for ten years and loves "making a difference" in today's world. Kelli Christina attributes her success to her hard work, education, and determination. With 20 years of specialized medical recruiting experience and 10 years in business management, she is currently the CEO, owner, and director of recruiting for KD-Staffing. Ms Christina created KD-Staffing on the idea that “recruiting is an art.” She has perfected her skills in this “art” through several managerial and leadership positions since the start of her career; she became a restaurant manager and a boss at nineteen years old. Before she started a career in recruiting, Ms. Christina obtained a bachelor’s degree in business, hotel, and restaurant management from the University of North Texas. With 30 years of career experience, her advice to younger generations of women entering the workforce is to remember the importance of education. She also advises them to be strong-willed and to never give up.

1. A positive attitude and a grateful spirit will lead to great success
2. Be the best version of yourself
3. Every day is a new Start
4. Give time and from heart
5. I don't have time to help you move
6. Develop listening skills, and others will educate you
7. Change your stinking thinking
8. Never be too proud to ask for help

259 Ann Hince: Issues lie in the Tissues - From inner turmoil to inner peace

Ann recognized that her emotional memories were stored physically in her body as tension. As that tension was released, life started to change in ways that she never knew were possible. By sharing her story, Ann wants others to know their lives can change too.
When Ann was 19, she woke one morning to find her mother dead in her bathroom. 
Twenty years later the tears from that trauma were still just under the surface. Ann found a simple technique that helped her release these emotions - but she went further and can now put her awareness inside her body - and has changed the bone structure of her skull and grown ½ an inch at age 55. Ann has found that seeking out our truth, what we truly feel, and accepting those feelings, is the key to inner peace.

3 top tips
1. Emotions are stored physically in our body as physical tension.
2. The first step is noticing when we are feeling emotional
3. Accepting how we are thinking and feeling (not acting on them though) allows them to dissipate their energy.

https://annhince.com/ 
https://www.facebook.com/AnnHinceWisdom 
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTc4hb7ZKvih1LlRHK0cUjg