My Steps to Sobriety

99 Yishan Xu - Why a sleep psychologist can literally save your life

Hello, I am Dr. Xu, a licensed clinical psychologist, the founder and director of our clinic: Mind & Body Garden Psychology. Thank you very much for visiting the website of our clinic, and hopefully you find some contents here useful for you.

I am a sleep specialist trained in Stanford Sleep Medicine Department, gained the Diplomate in Behavioral Sleep Medicine (DBSM) certified by The Board of Behavioral Sleep Medicine. I am serving as a committee member in Society of Behavioral Sleep Medicine.
 I always see the role of a psychologist as  a gardener. When people come to us seeking support, they may have too many branches of mental blocks and bushes of stress in their lives. What we can do is to help people be more aware of the branches and bushes that impact their quality of life, and then assist them to trim these parts, cope with stress, and live a healthier and happier life.
 I grew up in China and speak both Mandarin and English. I strongly advocate evidence-based treatment to develop a more positive attitude, and to build a life that is happier, more balanced, and more meaningful. Many of my clients have a hard time dealing with stress or transitions in life. Others may use some help with improving communication and relationship. They all have a common desire to take active steps to make meaningful and lasting changes.

 
MY APPROACHES TO THERAPY
I have been trained in various evidence-based therapeutic approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Mindfulness Compassionate Approaches.  I believe that therapy requires a teamwork and I love to work with my clients collaboratively and tailor treatment to meet their needs. I always try my best to provide a warm and safe environment for my clients so they have a private space to share their thoughts and feelings freely. I often invite my clients to explore their own strength with me together and practice effective coping skills. The most important aspects of my approach is: It works! I think that is the beauty of applying evidence-based therapy into practice.
 
MY APPROACHES TO PSYCHOLOGICAL TESTING
I believe that everyone is unique, and we all have our own potentials and needs. I want to use psychological testing such as neuropsychological testing as a tool, to help us understand ourselves better, explore our potentials, and seek appropriate help as needed. 
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98 McCall Bennett Lawrence - Recovery from being a victim-martyr child of an alcoholic single mother

In McCall's words: 
My name is McCall - I was 8 years old when I walked into my first AlAteen meeting in Oct. 1981, Cleveland, Ohio... when my mom went thru detox and into rehab the first time. She was a single mom and I, an only child.  Since then there have been as many crises as one would expect from a progressive illness like this family disease.  She finished her 90-something-th detox recently and I have found that sharing my story is helping me find gratitude for her (and my own) disease. 

Follow her on IG https://www.instagram.com/p/CG0XV5AFjt8/?igshid=hhveex5cqd90 
and check out her YouTube Channel Unboxing God 
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97 Shakoya Green - From Foster Care to Social Worker, Manifesting Greatness through GRACE

In Shakoya's words

Although, being detained from my parents and going into the foster care system was traumatizing, DCFS and my social workers played a pivotal role in my life from the age of 7 – 21 which I attribute to the tremendous support that was provided to me. While I was eager to no longer be involved in the process (DCFS), I learned to be open and have patience. This experience taught me to trust the process… abandonment, attachment issues, codependency, coping, healing and now I am a Social Worker … GROWTH is a JOURNEY. 
Shakoya Green, M.A, M.S.W, is an established professional Social Worker in the behavioral health and social services field. A native of Compton, California, she earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Child and Family Development from San Diego State University and a Master of Human Behavior from National University. She obtained a second Master’s Degree in Social Work from California State University Dominguez Hills.

Ms. Green’s acquaintance with social services and the impact it has on individuals is relatively due to her own lived experiences. Ms. Green was born into a home with drug addicted parents and as a result was raised by her maternal grandmother in the foster care system. As an experienced Social Worker she has combined her traumatic lived experiences with her expertise in management acuity to facilitate awareness of program goals, objectives, and desired outcomes for her staff. Her fervor for human development and community awareness have sustained her professional proficiency and ensured longevity and success within her line of work.

Shakoya's 3 top tips 
1. Learn from your Trauma - take time to heal
2. Have high self esteem, high self confidence and know that your past does not dictate your present or future
3. Always be intentional

Get in touch with Shakoya
I will be offering one free coaching session to a woman to help them manifest their greatness. This will include identifying strengths, limiting beliefs and help them increase self esteem, self awareness and self confidence. 
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96 Mimika Cooney - Pursue Your Purpose to unlock the Champion within

Mimika Cooney is a Motivational Speaker, Author, Leadership Mentor, and the host of the “Mimika TV Podcast”.
Huffington Post nominated her as one of "50 Women Entrepreneurs to Follow in 2017". Podcasting Magazine nominated Mimika amongst the “Top 50 Moms in Podcasting” in 2020.
Mimika is passionate about empowering and equipping individuals to unlock their personal potential and become the leaders they were born to be.
As a certified John Maxwell Speaker, Trainer, Consultant and Coach she is licensed to facilitate this world renown leadership training and the DISC personality assessment. 
Mimika loves to spark honest conversations, blaze a trail where others fear to tread, and infuse positivity wherever she goes. She is known for building community, creating connections and helping others share their story with passion and purpose. 
Mimika is a native of South Africa and naturalized citizen of the USA. She is a ferocious reader and insatiably curious. She enjoys watching soppy romcoms with her dashing husband of 24 years, and vacations at the beach with her 3 kids. 

When she is not dreaming up creative concepts, speaking, training, writing books or hosting her podcast; she will be found perfecting her spins on the ice as a competitive adult figure skater. 

Mimika's 3 top tips 
1. Ordinary people can achieve extraordinary results
2. Trust and follow the process
3. Change your mind to change your world

Get in touch with Mimika 
Listeners can get my FREE Growth Guide www.mimikacooney.com/growth

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95 Sue Paulson - The Chills, Challenges, & Thrills of Life After an Near-Death Experience

Paradise, Heaven, Pure Bliss. Is it really that wonderful? In this intimate encounter with the afterlife and the journey that led her there, Sue shares her adventures before, during, and after her near death experience in 2007.
A self-professed "Pollyanna" who looks for the silver lining in the blackest of clouds, Sue Paulson has experienced plenty of adversity.                        
Two bouts of cancer in 2011 and 2012 taught her to seek her own brand of heaven on earth. The author of Magnificent Misery - from Adversity to Ecstasy, Sue has her own app called The Magnificence Mentor which inspires others to unlock and embrace their own magnificence. Sue lives in Edmonton Alberta Canada

Sue's top 3 tips:
1. You were born magnificent.
2.  Life has no meaning except the meaning YOU give it.
3. We are here to experience joy and bliss. We are not here to suffer.

Get in touch with Sue:
To pursue my current passion of inspiring others to unlock and embrace their own magnificence, I now have my free App, The Magnificence Mentor. It is filled with videos, articles, and journal lessons. Simply download from the Apple store or Google Play. Follow the Quick Start Guide to access all the content. www.yourmagnificencementor.com

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94 Nathanie Etinoffe - What I learned from attending AA that warrants your attention

Nathanie Etinoffe is a Performing Artist, award winning poet and a student of entrepreneurship. Shortly before graduating high school, her dream to become a concert soloist was shattered, when ordered to choose something else. Consequently, Nathanie  trained and worked in various capacities. Nathanie is passionate about volunteerism. Unable to build her career as a concert soloist, Nathanie did vocal renditions for church functions, and toured as supporting artist in Dominica with visiting gospel music bands. Nathanie has also volunteered for fund raisers for the homeless, and women enslaved in human trafficking. Nathanie enjoys learning Internet Marketing and performing poetry.

Nathanie tells us how a non addict was positively impacted by Alcoholics Anonymous and dispels erroneous ideas about AA. Her message is clear: leaders are born in AA. Be empowered to develop determination to stay the course for yourself and be  constructive when support systems aren't available.
Nathanie's 3 top tips:
1. Find tools from meetings that I used while away. Eg The prayer Lord grant me the power to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Listening to the stories shared made the people who were sharing them caused me to identified with them. It also brought me clarity. I was thinking how comes we’ve never met before but our experiences are similar
2. It’s community
3. It has a spiritual element to it. I experienced forgiveness, I found hope, not everyone in AA are addicts.
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93 Esther Nagle - Breathing my way to happiness: self-discovery, healing and recovery through yoga

In Esther's words: There’s a lot more to Yoga than you might think. Far more than the exercise class it is often perceived to be, Yoga is a system for the sort of growth and healing required for recovery from addiction. Offering tools to promote self reflection, self compassion, emotional regulation, physical and mental healing and much more, Yoga offers everything needed to heal from the wounds that cause addiction, and develop healthy coping strategies for life, so that numbing is no longer required.Esther has 6 years of sobriety all thanks to Yoga. And she will tell us how.Esther Nagle is a sober, tattooed, single mother, rock chick Yoga teacher with ADHD. Sober for 6 years, and diagnosed with ADHD just last year at 46, Esther has had a ‘colourful’ life, spontaneous and adventurous even in sobriety.Esther has written a book about her recovery and the Yoga that guided her there, and now focuses her teaching and writing on helping women with ADHD calm the emotional storms and find inner peace. Using, you’ve guessed it, the same tools that helped her to achieve sobriety! Esther loves sobriety, and is so grateful she found her path there.Esther's top 3 tips1.  Three Rules of Yoga - Don’t Judge, Don’t Compare, Don’t Beat yourself up2.  Learn to breathe!3.  Forgiveness is for you, not them. Forgive them, and forgive yourself. Shame cannot live alongside forgiveness.

Esther is running an online retreat for women with ADHD on November 1 2020. Check it out! https://docs.google.com/document/d/1D68Ioo6BBJlN1E3zNRMnxKcWHZdfycb5MpnlKueEedU/edit?usp=sharing

Esther's book https://www.amazon.com/Bent-Back-into-Shape-Addiction-ebook/dp/B01M6W49UK/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=esther+nagle&qid=1603752818&s=digital-text&sr=1-1

 

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92 Win Charles - Cerebral Palsy and why I gave up alcohol

Born with Cerebral Palsy, Win Charles has defied the odds by becoming an author. Her memoir I, Win is an amazing story of how she remembers her life through the years of having a condition called “CP”. As a competitor in the Kona IronMan Triathlon, and motivational speaker, Win Charles truly is an inspiration to many. Today Win Charles tours the country, speaking to schools and institutions to raise awareness about cerebral palsy and living a full life no matter what holds you back. She is also an advocate of veterans across the world. 

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91 Stacy Johnston - Lighting the path for YOU to discover& write the story of your legacy

In Stacy's words:
Life is rhythm and we each have a song to sing and a story to write. Choices, circumstances, honor, fear, courage, joy and character are all instruments in the orchestra of our life. Me can merely dance to the music, left to its own devices, consequence deciding the beat. Or, by grace and acceptance, with courage and honor, we can decide to be the conductor of our own symphony.

I am 36 yrs happily married, a mother of 3 and “mom” to a multitude. I have 5 beautiful grandchildren and strive to leave a legacy of gratitude and grace. I spent 40 yrs as a dance instructor/ choreographer, 15 yrs as a rodeo preacher and 12 yrs as a Family Services Specialist for addiction and mental health. I have traded the 1st half for the 2nd half to operate Enlighten Up where we focus on illuminating the path from existence to significance. One of my new joys is co-hosting The Hero Builder Podcast. 

Stacy's 3 top tips

  1. You are the author of your story
  2. Coincidence happens on purpose
  3. It is all a great big circle covered with the consequences of our choices. 

Stacy's special offer to my listeners and viewers:
To help break the stigma that “Coaching” is about having someone order you around and point out your shortcomings, I will offer 1 complementary 20 min Enlightenment session to anyone that responds to this show by sending me an email at Enlightenup.stacyj@gmail.com. Please put “Stephan sent me” in the subject bar.

 

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90 Felicia Sanders - The rarest thing in the world is to live, most people just exist. Let’s change that!

In Felicia's words: 
My expertise is in helping people to live. What do you mean by that?
A lot of of people walking around this earth dead. They forgot what it means to live and to be connected to something greater than them.
We’ve been conditioned for so long to think a certain way, to do certain things in life to be considered successful.
Very few of us take a moment to pause and ask ourselves, what the hell am I doing?
Is what I’m doing supporting my life purpose and is it making me happy?
Everything begins with our mind. Somewhere along our life path, we forgot who we truly are. In school, we were told continuously what’s acceptable, what’s our limitation, what’s possible and what we should do.
This will lead to unhappiness and the feeling of un-fulfillment. We quiet our inner voice/intuition and conditioned to look at ‘facts’ of life.
I want to help people have an epiphany through a simple storybook to bring this deeper message of life to them before bedtime. I want them to use this as a tool to facilitate much needed conversations with their loved ones and friends.
Alcoholism or any type of addiction often times stems from unhappiness. Therefore, we’re trying to numb our emotions to escape from our reality.
I want to help them take that first baby step to create an easy organic way to start dealing with their demons. To see the light in the darkness and met them where they are. We can’t help people by telling them what to do. We need to start to listen and take the time to understand ourselves, what makes us tick and embrace both our shadows and lights.

Felicia's top 3 tips
1. Only 2% of the population is living their dream. Decide what kind of live and legacy you want.
2. What are emotions and how to use emotions as strengths?
3. What’s your story? What have you been telling yourself that prevent you from living your dream? Start making small changes everyday and share tips to start making progress toward your happiness.

Felicia invites you to sign up for her newsletter which provides one self-help freebie every month: https://campsatsea.com/
 And follow her on Instagram for daily inspiration. https://www.instagram.com/campsatsea2
Her first book The Sunflower link is https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08FYNXDVK).

 

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