Neff Inspiration

260 Nick Mathews: FATE - From Addict to Entrepreneur

Nicholas Mathews is a founder of Stillwater Behavioral Health, a Dual Diagnosis treatment facility that personalizes care to help people struggling to recover from substance addiction and mental health disorders -- regardless of their socioeconomic background. Mathews abused opioids before becoming a heroin addict at age 16. When he developed a life-threatening liver condition, he realized he needed to get clean. After succeeding, he dedicated his life to guiding others into sobriety, becoming a consultant for various treatment facilities. This inspired him to fix deficiencies in clinical care and boost treatment program effectiveness through Stillwater Behavioral Health. He currently studies at Harvard Business School online. 
                
3 top tips for my audience:
“You can’t keep what you have unless you give it away.” That’s a wildly important lesson I learned. You have to be willing to show up for other people with the absence of self. If you benefit from that, great, but the real benefit comes from the reminder that your problems are not the most significant. You are not the most important person in the room. And one of the biggest things I’ve benefited from is the ability to realize that I’m not a victim. I don’t think there’s ever been a situation where I was truly victimized. It was a state of mind that I upheld to justify my behavior. When I could transcend that mindset and take control of my life, I experienced a freedom I had never known before.

Get in touch with Nicholas Mathews
www.stillwatertreatment.com   
info@stillwaterbh.com | 805-572-7911

10in10 Tim Mousseau: Preventing sexual abuse and harrassment

10in10 Tim Mousseau: Preventing sexual abuse and harrassment

Tim is a survivor of sexual violence turned educator and advocate on this topic. At the age of 22, Tim faced an incident of sexual assault. On top of this, Tim had to manage the stresses of workplace sexual harassment from his boss.
 
Coming to terms with his experience, Tim recognized how it left him feeling powerless. He vowed no one should ever feel the same way.
 
For the last nine years, Tim has spoken with over 400 organizations, including Congressional offices, top universities, and Fortune 1000 companies worldwide. His speaking covers creating safe cultures and sexual violence/harassment prevention.

www.timmousseau.com 
LinkedIn- https://www.linkedin.com/in/tim-mouss...
IG- https://www.instagram.com/tim_mousseau/

1. everyone holds personal boundaries
2. a boundary violation can occur regardless of our relationship with someone
3. it's up to the person who experiences the violation to define and determine how much context matters
4. harm is a veritable concept
5. It's really critical that we think about not just being against the big behaviours, but the small behaviours
6. apologize without contextualizing
7. take ownership regardless of your intentionality 
8. our identity impacts how we perceive these situations
9. And just because something's been the way it was for so many years, it doesn't mean we can't critique it. Re-explore it, reevaluate it and come up with better answers!

10in10 Kelli Dennehey Christina: Living a fantastic life in Alanon & changing your life philosophy

Kelli Christina is an International Best-selling author, public speaker, CEO, and business coach. She has worked part-time on government projects for ten years and loves "making a difference" in today's world. Kelli Christina attributes her success to her hard work, education, and determination. With 20 years of specialized medical recruiting experience and 10 years in business management, she is currently the CEO, owner, and director of recruiting for KD-Staffing. Ms Christina created KD-Staffing on the idea that “recruiting is an art.” She has perfected her skills in this “art” through several managerial and leadership positions since the start of her career; she became a restaurant manager and a boss at nineteen years old. Before she started a career in recruiting, Ms. Christina obtained a bachelor’s degree in business, hotel, and restaurant management from the University of North Texas. With 30 years of career experience, her advice to younger generations of women entering the workforce is to remember the importance of education. She also advises them to be strong-willed and to never give up.

1. A positive attitude and a grateful spirit will lead to great success
2. Be the best version of yourself
3. Every day is a new Start
4. Give time and from heart
5. I don't have time to help you move
6. Develop listening skills, and others will educate you
7. Change your stinking thinking
8. Never be too proud to ask for help

259 Ann Hince: Issues lie in the Tissues - From inner turmoil to inner peace

Ann recognized that her emotional memories were stored physically in her body as tension. As that tension was released, life started to change in ways that she never knew were possible. By sharing her story, Ann wants others to know their lives can change too.
When Ann was 19, she woke one morning to find her mother dead in her bathroom. 
Twenty years later the tears from that trauma were still just under the surface. Ann found a simple technique that helped her release these emotions - but she went further and can now put her awareness inside her body - and has changed the bone structure of her skull and grown ½ an inch at age 55. Ann has found that seeking out our truth, what we truly feel, and accepting those feelings, is the key to inner peace.

3 top tips
1. Emotions are stored physically in our body as physical tension.
2. The first step is noticing when we are feeling emotional
3. Accepting how we are thinking and feeling (not acting on them though) allows them to dissipate their energy.

https://annhince.com/ 
https://www.facebook.com/AnnHinceWisdom 
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTc4hb7ZKvih1LlRHK0cUjg

10in10 Dianne Simboro: Don’t Confuse New Love and Early Stages of Abuse!

Stairway to heaven or highway to hell?

Dianne Simboro is a Master Coach, Trainer, Behavioural Profiler and Hypnotherapist. She established Family Violence Mindset Solutions and How to Thrive After Family Violence to teach survivors of family violence strategies to fast-track their recovery process and how to recognise the strategies of perpetrators of violence.
Dianne had an interracial marriage and started out in a small West African country where she didn’t speak the language, didn’t understand the culture and stood out in a crowd. But in just 12 months she created a successful but small Art Business starting from scratch, all while being pregnant with her first daughter.
After an abusive marriage that lasted 27 years and another 10 years spent working with survivors of family violence, Dianne found that once women were able to recognise the strategies used by their abusers, they had the tools needed to eliminate all of the hooks that were once used as a means of control over them and they could avoid getting caught again. But it became very clear to Dianne that new love and the early stages of abuse are almost identical and it was necessary to help women clearly distinguish the difference between the two.

Step 1. The woman is looking for love. She looks at only one person at a time. The abuser is looking for his next victim
Step 2. The woman is on her best behavior. She's wanting to show that she regards what she regards as her best qualities in order to impress him. The abuser also is on his best behavior. 
Step 3. She wants to find out more about him, she wants to love someone. The abuser is wanting to find out more about her because he's fascinated with his prey.
Step 4. The woman has a tick box of desirable qualities in the man. Someone who is maybe caring, kind, generous, financially, independent and protective of her. At this point, she trusts what he's telling her. She has no reason not to trust in the earliest stages of a new relationship.
Step 5. She is assessing his character. She's comparing him to her past failed relationships to see if there are any red flags that she needs to look for. The abuser has realized that he is being assessed. He knows what to avoid, to show that he's different to her previous relationships because he's already asked her is calculating and measured in his behaviour he's fascinated with his prey.
Step 6. The woman shares about her life because he seems to be fascinated by her more than other men that she's met before she easily shares her skills, talents, hobbies, and interests. He claims that he is a victim of a b@#$% and or he's the victim of an abusive and painful childhood. This begins to explain any adverse behaviour and is an early stage of conditioning. 
Step 7. She hopes for commitment but is willing to settle for connection at first. Her abuser rushes to commitment. It's a whirlwind affair and that's another red flag. He secures the relationship quickly.
Step 8. The woman is waiting for the heart to say, this is the one. The head is not as important at this stage. In the new relationship, she is willing to overlook minor issues because she believes love can overcome pretty much everything. The abuser, his head is switched on at all times. He wants a people pleaser because they are easier to control. 
Step 9. "If you love me, you will __________." She considers it natural to have to make some compromises, and he will stay. This honeymoon period will only last as long as necessary change will happen. 
Step 10. He pretends to share her interests to become the centre of her world, all the while subtly pushing other important people out of her life. He is able to push her buttons if she hesitates and the abuser will do everything to retain control of his newly conditioned victim.

10in10 Alaina Nadig : The Pursuit of Relentless Adventure

10in10 Alaina Nadig: The Pursuit of Relentless Adventure

Alaina had many careers before her introduction to the world of finance.  She went from over 300lbs and over $100,000 in debt to a successful financial advisor, podcaster, and community leader who is focused on giving people opportunities to create their best life.
In Alaina's words:
"I am a red seal pastry chef and followed my passion for food to a really dark place.  Obesity, addictions, struggles with depression and anxiety… Carpal Tunnel forced a change in careers and thankfully it did.  After baking I started in industrial sales which led to operating equipment which led to layoffs and frustrations and the opportunity to become an advisor.  Now, I help people learn about money and find huge satisfaction providing education and awareness on how money works and how to live your best life."

Social media and contact info
@alainanadig 
@pursuitofrelentless 
https://agents.wfgcanada.ca/alaina-nadig

1. Be vision and mission-focused
2. Be clear about your core values
3. Be uniquely you
4. Understand that your environment impacts your success on a huge scale
5. Focus on long-term wealth building
6. Daily five habits
7. Be you so vibrantly that you shine
8. Develop a routine around your personal development
9. Put yourself out there helps people get to know you 
10. Always add value

258 Tom Cronin: What causes addictions and how to liberate yourself from them

Tom Cronin is a speaker, transformation coach, meditation teacher, author and producer of the powerful documentary The Portal. He is known as The King of Calm and is on a mission to reduce anxiety and depression in people's lives and bring peace and calm to the world.

Tom Cronin spent 26 years in financial markets as one of Australia’s leading bond and swap brokers. He discovered meditation in the early stages of his career, when the anxiety and chaos he was experiencing had hit a crisis point, and it completely transformed his world, both personally and professionally. His ongoing work in transformational leadership coaching and corporate training has seen him working with some of the top companies in the world like Amazon, Qantas, UBS and Coca-Cola. He has spoken on stage at conferences and events like Adnews Summit, Afest, Wanderlust and Mind Heart Connect. Tom has six books published, a meditation app and produced the hit film The Portal.   

3 top tips for my audience:
1. Meditate Daily
2. Read inspiring positive books every day
3. Get off your phones and technology by 9pmand go to bed by 10pm

Social media and contact info. How can viewers contact you after the interview? Please list your social media handles and websites. This is how they will appear in the show notes! 
https://www.tomcronin.com/
https://entertheportal.com/
https://www.instagram.com/tomcronin/

10in10 Aaron Solly - Depression is Anger turned Inward

10in10 Aaron Solly - Depression is Anger turned Inward

Aaron Solly, the founder of Engage Coaching Group, is a banker turned coach, author, educator, father of two amazing boys, and husband. 

At 37 years old, he was overwhelmed and in a deep depression in the basement of his home. He was working in the financial services industry feeling stressed out and not happy with his career. His first marriage was failing.  His first son was 2 years old.  His world felt like it was falling apart all around him.  On that day, he decided to shift his perspective from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this for?”

The famous psychologist Carl Jung stated
 “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”

When life struggles happen such as the fear of losing your job, a marriage breakdown or being in the dark cloud of depression, the answer is not from an outside source.  

The answer comes from going within yourself and connecting to your values, your purpose and all the feelings that are part of who you are.

Social media and contact info
Website: www.engagecoachinggroup.com/mastery
FB: https://www.facebook.com/engageconnectgrow 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaronsolly/ 

1. 80% of the game is in between your ears. 
2. If you're anxious, journaling is a proven method to help
3. Depression is Anger turned inward
4. Feelings are okay
5. Focus on loving yourself
6. Be open: to new ideas, to meeting new people, to new ways of doing things
7. Ask for help 
8. Surround yourself with like-minded people 
9. Use the tools that work for you

257 Danielle Bernock: A Warrior’s Heart and The Power of LOVE

257 Danielle Bernock: A Warrior’s Heart and The Power of LOVE

The single greatest need we have as human beings is the need for love. When a child grows up feeling unloved it causes unbearable pain and shame. Throw in multiple various traumas, and the suffering increases exponentially. This is Danielle’s story of how the power of love intervened in her life, saving her from destroying herself, giving her a rainbow, changing her name, and giving her a warrior’s heart to become a Victorious Soul.

Danielle Bernock is passionate about helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with  a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, to become Victorious Souls. She does this through writing, coaching, speaking, podcasting, courses, and workshops that utilize her 4 step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she’s known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” She’s authored four books, and when she’s not engaged in helping others reclaim their God-given greatness, you can find her enjoying her family.

3 top tips for my audience:
1. You have great value whether you feel like it or not.
2. Only you can change your life, no one can do it for you.
3. No matter what you’re going through, you can ask God for help.

Social media and contact info. How can viewers contact you after the interview? Please list your social media handles and websites. This is how they will appear in the show notes! 
https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ 
https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ 
https://twitter.com/DBernock 
https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ 
https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock 
https://www.pinterest.com/DanielleBernock/ 
https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou 
https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorious-souls-podcast/id1556134709?uo=4

256 Gregory Shushan: Near-Death Experiences: Lessons for Life, Death, and Beyond

Gregory Shushan, PhD, is the leading authority on near-death experiences and the afterlife across cultures and throughout history.  He is the author of The Next World: Extraordinary Experiences of the Afterlife; Near-Death Experience in Indigenous Religions; and Conceptions of the Afterlife in Early Civilizations. He has also published numerous articles on the subject, has spoken at many conferences in various countries, and has appeared on the History Channel. He is currently Visiting Fellow at University of Winchester, and Research Fellow at the Parapsychology Foundation.        
In Gregory's words: 
Throughout history and around the world, near-death experiences have influenced ideas about the afterlife. They also share similarities with other extraordinary experiences such as shamanism, psychic mediumship, and memories of states between lives in reincarnation memories.  But they also have many differences, both between cultures and individuals.  What can this combination of similarities and differences tell us about near-death experiences, death, and the afterlife? And what does it mean for our time on Earth?

3 top tips for my audience:
1. Be here now.
2. Death will be a glorious adventure - even if we don’t survive it.
3. Life every day as if it’s your last, because it might be.

Get in touch: 
http://whitecrowbooks.com/books/page/the_next_world_extraordinary_experiences_of_the_afterlife/ 
https://www.instagram.com/gregoryshushan/ 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oPg8hlAb_yo&list=PLtJYcZlYzTEQyz2VIbC_NagxOZ7egijOY 
https://www.facebook.com/gregoryshushan

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