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10in10 Dianne Simboro: Don’t Confuse New Love and Early Stages of Abuse!

Stairway to heaven or highway to hell?

Dianne Simboro is a Master Coach, Trainer, Behavioural Profiler and Hypnotherapist. She established Family Violence Mindset Solutions and How to Thrive After Family Violence to teach survivors of family violence strategies to fast-track their recovery process and how to recognise the strategies of perpetrators of violence.
Dianne had an interracial marriage and started out in a small West African country where she didn’t speak the language, didn’t understand the culture and stood out in a crowd. But in just 12 months she created a successful but small Art Business starting from scratch, all while being pregnant with her first daughter.
After an abusive marriage that lasted 27 years and another 10 years spent working with survivors of family violence, Dianne found that once women were able to recognise the strategies used by their abusers, they had the tools needed to eliminate all of the hooks that were once used as a means of control over them and they could avoid getting caught again. But it became very clear to Dianne that new love and the early stages of abuse are almost identical and it was necessary to help women clearly distinguish the difference between the two.

Step 1. The woman is looking for love. She looks at only one person at a time. The abuser is looking for his next victim
Step 2. The woman is on her best behavior. She's wanting to show that she regards what she regards as her best qualities in order to impress him. The abuser also is on his best behavior. 
Step 3. She wants to find out more about him, she wants to love someone. The abuser is wanting to find out more about her because he's fascinated with his prey.
Step 4. The woman has a tick box of desirable qualities in the man. Someone who is maybe caring, kind, generous, financially, independent and protective of her. At this point, she trusts what he's telling her. She has no reason not to trust in the earliest stages of a new relationship.
Step 5. She is assessing his character. She's comparing him to her past failed relationships to see if there are any red flags that she needs to look for. The abuser has realized that he is being assessed. He knows what to avoid, to show that he's different to her previous relationships because he's already asked her is calculating and measured in his behaviour he's fascinated with his prey.
Step 6. The woman shares about her life because he seems to be fascinated by her more than other men that she's met before she easily shares her skills, talents, hobbies, and interests. He claims that he is a victim of a b@#$% and or he's the victim of an abusive and painful childhood. This begins to explain any adverse behaviour and is an early stage of conditioning. 
Step 7. She hopes for commitment but is willing to settle for connection at first. Her abuser rushes to commitment. It's a whirlwind affair and that's another red flag. He secures the relationship quickly.
Step 8. The woman is waiting for the heart to say, this is the one. The head is not as important at this stage. In the new relationship, she is willing to overlook minor issues because she believes love can overcome pretty much everything. The abuser, his head is switched on at all times. He wants a people pleaser because they are easier to control. 
Step 9. "If you love me, you will __________." She considers it natural to have to make some compromises, and he will stay. This honeymoon period will only last as long as necessary change will happen. 
Step 10. He pretends to share her interests to become the centre of her world, all the while subtly pushing other important people out of her life. He is able to push her buttons if she hesitates and the abuser will do everything to retain control of his newly conditioned victim.

10in10 Alaina Nadig : The Pursuit of Relentless Adventure

10in10 Alaina Nadig: The Pursuit of Relentless Adventure

Alaina had many careers before her introduction to the world of finance.  She went from over 300lbs and over $100,000 in debt to a successful financial advisor, podcaster, and community leader who is focused on giving people opportunities to create their best life.
In Alaina's words:
"I am a red seal pastry chef and followed my passion for food to a really dark place.  Obesity, addictions, struggles with depression and anxiety… Carpal Tunnel forced a change in careers and thankfully it did.  After baking I started in industrial sales which led to operating equipment which led to layoffs and frustrations and the opportunity to become an advisor.  Now, I help people learn about money and find huge satisfaction providing education and awareness on how money works and how to live your best life."

Social media and contact info
@alainanadig 
@pursuitofrelentless 
https://agents.wfgcanada.ca/alaina-nadig

1. Be vision and mission-focused
2. Be clear about your core values
3. Be uniquely you
4. Understand that your environment impacts your success on a huge scale
5. Focus on long-term wealth building
6. Daily five habits
7. Be you so vibrantly that you shine
8. Develop a routine around your personal development
9. Put yourself out there helps people get to know you 
10. Always add value

258 Tom Cronin: What causes addictions and how to liberate yourself from them

Tom Cronin is a speaker, transformation coach, meditation teacher, author and producer of the powerful documentary The Portal. He is known as The King of Calm and is on a mission to reduce anxiety and depression in people's lives and bring peace and calm to the world.

Tom Cronin spent 26 years in financial markets as one of Australia’s leading bond and swap brokers. He discovered meditation in the early stages of his career, when the anxiety and chaos he was experiencing had hit a crisis point, and it completely transformed his world, both personally and professionally. His ongoing work in transformational leadership coaching and corporate training has seen him working with some of the top companies in the world like Amazon, Qantas, UBS and Coca-Cola. He has spoken on stage at conferences and events like Adnews Summit, Afest, Wanderlust and Mind Heart Connect. Tom has six books published, a meditation app and produced the hit film The Portal.   

3 top tips for my audience:
1. Meditate Daily
2. Read inspiring positive books every day
3. Get off your phones and technology by 9pmand go to bed by 10pm

Social media and contact info. How can viewers contact you after the interview? Please list your social media handles and websites. This is how they will appear in the show notes! 
https://www.tomcronin.com/
https://entertheportal.com/
https://www.instagram.com/tomcronin/

10in10 Aaron Solly - Depression is Anger turned Inward

10in10 Aaron Solly - Depression is Anger turned Inward

Aaron Solly, the founder of Engage Coaching Group, is a banker turned coach, author, educator, father of two amazing boys, and husband. 

At 37 years old, he was overwhelmed and in a deep depression in the basement of his home. He was working in the financial services industry feeling stressed out and not happy with his career. His first marriage was failing.  His first son was 2 years old.  His world felt like it was falling apart all around him.  On that day, he decided to shift his perspective from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What is this for?”

The famous psychologist Carl Jung stated
 “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”

When life struggles happen such as the fear of losing your job, a marriage breakdown or being in the dark cloud of depression, the answer is not from an outside source.  

The answer comes from going within yourself and connecting to your values, your purpose and all the feelings that are part of who you are.

Social media and contact info
Website: www.engagecoachinggroup.com/mastery
FB: https://www.facebook.com/engageconnectgrow 
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaronsolly/ 

1. 80% of the game is in between your ears. 
2. If you're anxious, journaling is a proven method to help
3. Depression is Anger turned inward
4. Feelings are okay
5. Focus on loving yourself
6. Be open: to new ideas, to meeting new people, to new ways of doing things
7. Ask for help 
8. Surround yourself with like-minded people 
9. Use the tools that work for you

257 Danielle Bernock: A Warrior’s Heart and The Power of LOVE

257 Danielle Bernock: A Warrior’s Heart and The Power of LOVE

The single greatest need we have as human beings is the need for love. When a child grows up feeling unloved it causes unbearable pain and shame. Throw in multiple various traumas, and the suffering increases exponentially. This is Danielle’s story of how the power of love intervened in her life, saving her from destroying herself, giving her a rainbow, changing her name, and giving her a warrior’s heart to become a Victorious Soul.

Danielle Bernock is passionate about helping men, women, and organizations EMERGE with  a clear vision of their value, TAKE ownership of their choices, and CHART a path to their purpose, to become Victorious Souls. She does this through writing, coaching, speaking, podcasting, courses, and workshops that utilize her 4 step proven process called S.E.L.F. Her mantra is “love yourself from survive to thrive” and she’s known as “that lady on the internet who loves you.” She’s authored four books, and when she’s not engaged in helping others reclaim their God-given greatness, you can find her enjoying her family.

3 top tips for my audience:
1. You have great value whether you feel like it or not.
2. Only you can change your life, no one can do it for you.
3. No matter what you’re going through, you can ask God for help.

Social media and contact info. How can viewers contact you after the interview? Please list your social media handles and websites. This is how they will appear in the show notes! 
https://www.facebook.com/daniellebernock/ 
https://www.instagram.com/dbernock/ 
https://twitter.com/DBernock 
https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-bernock-6ab50467/ 
https://www.tiktok.com/@dbernock 
https://www.pinterest.com/DanielleBernock/ 
https://www.youtube.com/c/DanielleBernockLovesYou 
https://anchor.fm/victorioussoulspodcast 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorious-souls-podcast/id1556134709?uo=4

256 Gregory Shushan: Near-Death Experiences: Lessons for Life, Death, and Beyond

Gregory Shushan, PhD, is the leading authority on near-death experiences and the afterlife across cultures and throughout history.  He is the author of The Next World: Extraordinary Experiences of the Afterlife; Near-Death Experience in Indigenous Religions; and Conceptions of the Afterlife in Early Civilizations. He has also published numerous articles on the subject, has spoken at many conferences in various countries, and has appeared on the History Channel. He is currently Visiting Fellow at University of Winchester, and Research Fellow at the Parapsychology Foundation.        
In Gregory's words: 
Throughout history and around the world, near-death experiences have influenced ideas about the afterlife. They also share similarities with other extraordinary experiences such as shamanism, psychic mediumship, and memories of states between lives in reincarnation memories.  But they also have many differences, both between cultures and individuals.  What can this combination of similarities and differences tell us about near-death experiences, death, and the afterlife? And what does it mean for our time on Earth?

3 top tips for my audience:
1. Be here now.
2. Death will be a glorious adventure - even if we don’t survive it.
3. Life every day as if it’s your last, because it might be.

Get in touch: 
http://whitecrowbooks.com/books/page/the_next_world_extraordinary_experiences_of_the_afterlife/ 
https://www.instagram.com/gregoryshushan/ 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oPg8hlAb_yo&list=PLtJYcZlYzTEQyz2VIbC_NagxOZ7egijOY 
https://www.facebook.com/gregoryshushan

#neardeathexperience #nde #afterlife #lifeafterdeath #parapsychology #OBE #outofbodyexperience #psychicalresearch #anthropology #shamanism #reincarnation #mediumship #mysticism #religiousexperience #ancienthistory #ancientmysteries #nextworld #afterworldspress

255 Raamon Newman: Making the Best Decisions Under Pressure.

Making the best decision under pressure requires an inner development that allows you to accurately assess what you’re feeling and thinking in relation to the situation you’re in. 
Every decision we make in life and business counts toward our ability to overcome challenges and progress with greater ease and grace. 
“Hindsight is 20-20” and “you don’t know what you don’t know”... - How can you begin closing the gap between what you don’t know and hindsight, so that you do know more, and your foresight is as powerful as your hindsight?
Raamon Newman, & his biz partner Paolo D'Angelo, are the co-founders of New Mavericks, a leadership development consultancy based out of Los Angeles, USA & Sydney, Australia.
They're co-authors of the book: The Science of Protection: How Leaders Gain an Unfair Advantage to Create Stellar Success
For 25 years they have been globally trusted Leadership Breakthrough Protection Partners to over 50 top CEOs & execs of multi-million & billion revenue companies. 
He’s a former top athlete & rugby player, entrepreneur, 10-year meditating monk, actor & philanthropist for peace and youth education, and a graduate from the University of Auckland. 
                            
3 top tips for my audience:
1. Purification leads to progress - purify your inner enemies to avert outer enemies.
2. Focus on challenging yourself to grow more so than desires and outcomes.
3. Make your mind as coherent and settled as possible before taking action and important decisions and when you decide, decide big first then see what thoughts come, you don’t overanalyze things.

Social media and contact info. 
www.NewMavericks.com 
There you can take the Leadership Protection Quotient Assessment to determine your current capacity to protect and enhance your progress. You’ll also get a free copy of our eBook The Science of Protection and a complimentary 30 min call with Raamon.

254 Stephanie Lueras: Movement, Mindset and Menu for Momentum towards your Goals

After coming to a point in life where she was “sick and tired of being sick and tired,” Stepanie Lueras needed some changes.  Through small actions and goal setting, she has lost over 200 pounds through balanced nutrition and movement, without the use of restrictive dieting, commercial weight loss plans, or supplements.  She has gained a love of endurance sports, running marathons, and is currently training for Ironman-distance races.  She uses this same holistic goal setting model in working with clients in groups and individually to empower people to break down the everyday barriers that exist so they can achieve what they are working towards for their best personal wellness. 
Stephanie specializes in beginner and adaptive fitness. She helps people of all sizes, ages, and conditions/illnesses, to achieve consistency with their personal movement and nutrition goals.  She enjoys incorporating bodyweight resistance training into workouts, so many workouts require no or minimal equipment.  She is also a TRX Suspension System Instructor, SilverSneakers Fitness Instructor, and SilverSneakers Nutrition Facilitator.  In 2022, she is also completing her Kundalini Yoga certification and Orthopedic Exercise Specialist Program.
                
3 top tips for my audience:
1. Start small–every goal can be broken down into a smaller bit
2. For every physical goal accomplished, there is an emotional and/our spiritual counterpart that grows–acknowledge it
3. Anything is possible; we don’t fail, but simply find a different way to what we want to achieve

Get in touch with Stephanie: 
Stephanie Lueras, Heart and Sole Fitness & Wellness,
stephanielueras@gmail.com
https://heartandsolefit.com/
https://www.facebook.com/heartandsolefit/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/heartandsolefit/
Clubhouse @heartandsolefit
https://twitter.com/HSFitnessLueras
https://www.instagram.com/heartandsolefitnessandwellness/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtrCuROv8yzoPPg35bqX_dA

253 Robin Horsfall: From Boy Soldier to SAS. Never let others tell you what you can’t achieve!

Robin Horsfall was a boy soldier at fifteen, a paratrooper at seventeen and a SAS soldier at twenty-one. He fought in five wars as a front line soldier, was a Royal Marine Sniper and was a top bodyguard. He was also one of the UK’s first Paramedics and ran clinics all over the world. He once built a medical centre in the centre of the Guyana Jungle, but there is more.
In 1992 he started to teach martial arts and for twenty years taught thousands of children karate in South West London building the largest independent children’s karate group in Europe. He broke his neck and while recovering went to Surrey University as a mature student (56) and graduated three years later.
He is currently actively fighting for the Northern Ireland Veterans Movement a battle he has led for six years. He recently survived bladder cancer, writes books and now lives in South Wales. Robin is a great grandfather and has been married for forty years to his wife Heather. Robin condenses his considerable story into an hour and then allows time for questions.

https://robinhorsfall.co.uk/

252 Rina Lang: Survival Hacks To Get You Out Of The Prison Of Your Mind

Most people are not satisfied with their minds. Most believe their minds work against them rather than for them. 
There was a time they had dreams, but most fell flat due to lack of energy, clarity and focus, persistence and lack of time, among other things.
Many feel entrapped in their minds, feeling like they can only live a fraction of the life they know they could have if only their MINDS WERE FREE AND ON FIRE! 
Join this podcast with Rina Lang, a Mind and Brain Power coach and learn tools and techniques she used to UNLEASH HER MIND’S GREATER POTENTIAL.

Rina is an explorer of mental states to increase memory, focus, clarity, intellect and intuition. She is the creator of the “Mind and Brain Supercharge” program designed specifically to help Leaders, Business Owners and Intellectual Thinkers easily upgrade their minds and brains to cope with 21st-century demands and challenges. 

Rina struggled for years with a bad case of brain fog, mental fatigue, procrastination and short-term memory. But after much trial and error, she cracked the code to unleash her intellectual abilities. Today, Rina is passionate about educating others about consciousness states, brains' energetic makeup and how our innate intuitive, creative and intellectual “superpowers” can be accessed and upgraded.

Rina’s mission is simple but powerful: Clear Mind, Healthy Brain, Think Energised.

3 top tips for my audience:
1. Do some ‘house-cleaning” inside your mind
2. Get your mind organized
3. Find your way back to the passions that set you on fire

https://www.linkedin.com/in/rinalang/ 
https://www.instagram.com/rina.smart.rebel/ 
https://www.youtube.com/c/MindandBrainPowerSupercharge 
https://www.facebook.com/rinalangcoach/
FB Groups - Mind and Brain Power Upgrade: https://www.facebook.com/groups/intellectualability 
FB group for Coaches (3500+ members) https://www.facebook.com/groups/coachingconnection.risingtogether 
Get my FREE eBook: www.rinalang.com/ebook